Today marks three years since my grandma's passing. It was on the Saturday before Easter (what we call "Easter Saturday" in my family). That was fitting because grandma loved Easter. She was big on all holidays really.
On Easter Saturday, we always have a big family gathering with all of the aunts, uncles, and cousins. That year was no different. Grandma passed away early that morning and later that same day, we all gathered for our traditional Easter party. Of course, there was a different feeling there that year but, I think everyone felt at peace. There was a lot of love.
I miss my grandma very much. She was a beautiful person who I loved to spend time with. She was thoughtful, creative, fun, and warm. As kids, we loved her because she spoiled us with treats and toys constantly! As I grew older, I appreciated more and more about her. I loved how she was always so interested in what I was doing or what was going on with my life. She wanted to know what my current interests were and then she would keep an eye out for anything she could give me to help develop those interests. I loved how she appreciated beauty in the smallest details.
She has been on my mind a lot for the past week or so--with Easter and the anniversary of her passing. I have had memories and thoughts running through my mind; things I loved about grandma, things I remember. I am not really sure how to share or organize my thoughts so, I suppose I will just list a few;
- Grandma loved pink. She had a whole room dedicated to the color in one of her houses. Soft pink flowers, curtains, and pink and green furniture.
- Grandma loved dolls. (Emma loves dolls right now and it always makes me think about how much grandma would have loved Emma. I am certain that she would have bought Emma several dolls by now, all with brown hair and brown eyes to match Emma's) She had beautiful porcelain dolls all over her house and often gave them as gifts. She even made and sold them!
- Panda bears, ivy leaves, pansies, bamboo, Dr. Pepper, black licorice, beanie babies, and fried ice cream; all things that remind me of grandma.
- Grandma loved holidays. That's something that has been passed down through the generations for sure. She wore holiday themed vests, earrings, pins, bracelets, and shirts. We always had big family gatherings on holidays-we still do but, boy do I miss grandma's presence at those events. I know she is still there-I am certain of it as I can often feel her-but, I still miss her. I miss hearing her laugh and participating in the fun little things she would plan for us on those days.
- When I was little, grandma had a toy closet. It was a large closet full of all kinds of toys. We would literally sit in the closet with the door shut playing with Care Bears, dolls, My little Pony's, Cabbage Patch Kids, and all kinds of fun toys for the longest time!
- I also remember grandma's waterbed-I thought it was amazing and longed to have one of my own! I was sure that when I grew up, I would have my own waterbed only mine would have real fish swimming inside of it.
- Grandma and I shared a love for cherries. There weren't many other people in the family who cared for them so I always felt like it was one of "our things". (Grandma seemed to have those kinds of "things" with everybody. They were all different "things" but it always made you feel special. Like you and grandma had some sort of special secret.) Grandma had several cherry trees in her back yard and we loved to go back there and pick them together before sitting down to eat a whole bowlful.
- A day out with grandma was the best! She always took us out to eat at a restaurant and we ALWAYS got dessert. We would go to Croshaw Pies, Tony Ramas, and (our favorite) a greek place where grandma would order us a cheese dish that came out in flames! It was amazing to us kids. I remember one time when mom was there and asked me to keep my elbows off the table-that's when grandma laughed because HER elbows were on the table too! Grandma just seemed to GET kids and we loved her for it. Shopping with grandma was especially fun because if you showed interest in something, she'd usually say "put it in the cart!" We always walked away with a few new toys or treats. She got a lot of joy from giving to others.
- Grandma always knew when you weren't feeling well and she always knew how to fix it! When you told her you had a headache, it was as if your pain was her own. You could just see the compassion in her face. She would rush to get you a cool wash cloth, some essential oils, and a Tylenol. She would insist that you lay down and would turn the shades in the room down-your comfort was so important to her.
- I don't think there was anything that grandma loved more in the world than family-especially grandkids. She was just wonderful.
I could go on and on and on with all of the wonderful qualities and memories that were my grandma. I miss her so.
Today, Emma and I went with my mom to visit her grave. Mom bought a sweet, single yellow tulip to put at her stone. It was perfect, I think grandma would have appreciated the simple beauty of it. I will never forget the advice she gave me just before I was married; "when you go to the grocery store, take time to stop for a minute where they sell the flowers and enjoy them." That was just like grandma, to take time out of a stressful day to celebrate the beauty of a simple yellow tulip.
Emma slept in the car for a while at first so mom and I wandered around the other stones, reading the names and thinking about what those people might have been like.
When Emma woke up, we took a few pictures with grandma's stone. I thought again about how much grandma would have loved Emma. I am sure that they were together before Emma was born. (Maybe that's why Emma took her sweet time getting here!) It would have been so wonderful to see them together though. I'll have to tell Emma all about her someday. Emma played and crawled all over her gravestone-I think grandma would have liked that too.
I am so grateful to know that grandma is healthy and happy and smiling in the most beautiful place. I bet she loves all of the flowers there. It will be such a wonderful day when I get to hear her laugh and get one of her warm hugs again.